17 Things I’ve Learned by 17

  1.  It’s okay to let yourself have emotion. I grew up with my emotions completely invalidated. This taught me to just hold everything in, to not let my feelings out. Now, I’m slowly learning how to relate to people what I feel. It’s hard, but it’s so worth it. People care about how you feel.
  2. If you’ve hurt someone’s feelings, apologize. Yes, you might be right. But if you hurt someone’s feelings, you’ve won the battle and not the war. What’s more important?
  3. Forgiveness. Along the same lines of learning to apologize is learning to forgive. When I think of forgiveness, I think of the Lord’s Prayer. “Give us this day our daily bread, and forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us.” Lord, provide for me and give me forgiveness. As Christ forgives us, we should forgive others. Jesus died on the Cross and paid our debts: the ultimate act of forgiveness and grace. Now, let us emulate Christ and forgive others with the same grace He has shown us.
  4. Putting lots of creamer in your coffee is totally okay. I like a little bit of coffee with my morning creamer; I like it to taste like a desert, and that’s okay. You do you.
  5. You always feel better after crying. Crying is a means of cleansing the body of harmful hormones that can be toxic to us, both emotionally and physically. Sometimes you just have to cry, and it’s good to let yourself. Chemically, you will feel better.
  6. Prayer. Pray in the morning. Pray at night. Never stop praying. Starting and ending the day with prayer is a great way to keep the Lord present on heart and mind. Quality time with the Lord is time well spent. And prayer is powerful. If you truly want to help someone, pray for them. Pray for them continually, every day, and watch what unfolds in their life and in yours.
  7. It’s okay to feel anxious, it’s not okay to let anxiety consume you. I personally get anxious whenever I’m super busy. For example, in this season of my life, I’m extremely busy and I have trouble finding time for my responsibilities. This has made me a bit anxious, but I have to take it day by day, and the anxiety I feel won’t consume me. We have been set free by the Cross; and in the long run, the things that make us busy now will not matter. So don’t let the anxiety consume you; it’s just not worth it.
  8. When ordering a pizza, always go large. You might not finish a large in one sitting, but the left overs will definitely get eaten. Pizza doesn’t sit in the fridge for very long; trust me, it’ll get eaten. Buy a large. Treat yoself.
  9. When getting a starbucks, go grande. You’ll want more than a tall, and unless it’s been an exceptionally bad day , a venti is not necessary.
  10. Whenever you can, take a bath instead of a shower. De-stress. Soak. It’s relaxing! I always have a bath book I can read in the bath (bath book- a book you like enough to read, but not one that you love so much that you would be torn up if it fell in the bath).
  11. Life is stressful. That is life. Accept it and pray for peace. Take everything day by day. “Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.” (‭Matthew‬ ‭6‬:‭34‬ ESV)
  12. Thankfulness. By my bedside, I keep a tiny journal and a pen. Every night before bed, I sit and reflect on my day. I write down all the things I’m thankful for that day (there’s too many to name, but I do my best). This has helped me to see the bright side of life, to recognize all the things I’m so incredible blessed with. Be thankful.
  13. Listening to worship music is uplifting. My personal favorites are From the Day by I Am They, You Will Never Run by Rend Collective, Grace on Top of Grace by Fellowship Creative, Grace Alone by the Modern Post, and You Brought Me Back to Life by Citizens. Jesus jams are the real jams.
  14. Go to Church. Church is the highlight of my week. I look forward to it every Sunday. Church is going to worship the Lord with His people. It’s a time of fellowship. Be excited for it! Take what the pastor says, and apply it to your life. I like to take notes during the sermon. It helps me to absorb and remember what was talked about. I also like to look back on previous sermons and delve back into the Word. Look forward to church; it’s emotionally good for you. Let it be uplifting!
  15. Saying yes to too many things is saying no to yourself. I’m guilt of this. I have a hard time saying no to people. I’m a people pleaser, and if someone asks me to do something, I want to help them and do it. But I’ve learned that when I load up my plate, I don’t have any time for myself.
  16. Choose friends wisely. Once you have them, keep them. Keeping up friendships is so important. Be in community with others. Find friends you can rely on, and once you find them, hold them close and cherish them.
  17. You are a child of the King. You’ve been redeemed and set free by the Cross. Your debts have been paid. Isn’t that a magnificent truth? Remember that and keep it with you. Share it with others. Let the Lord be your Hope and your Love. Carry Grace in your heart and extend it to others.


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  1. Loved reading your blogs. You are an incredible young woman and I’m proud to call you my granddaughter. Love ya


  2. Annika- you are beautiful- loved reading your blog- love you!!


  3. Wise words to live by! Great list:)


  4. I just was scrolling through Facebook and found one of you writing and took a moment to read it. Well it was definitely selected for me to read today. I just completed with a great deal of help my daughters first baby shower. And today I can bearly move. I need to ad hear to your advice that’s for sure. It was great. But yes we pleasers sometimes should either say no or ask others to handle more responsibility. I do need to pray more and make church a place as you as to look forward to going to. Thank you for your word of wisdom. I look forward to your readings.


  5. That was truely inspireing! Definitely something to live by!


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